Take control of your life and face your fears!

Are you letting fear control you, your emotions or even your life? I certainly have been guilty of it. Fear causes us to react in ways that are self harming to our quality of life. 

 

I have a friend who is so scared of letting someone love him that he will purposely at any cost use whatever words or actions necessary to keep love away. He has not learned to love without expectation. He has a fear of change and these fears simply cannot and will not lead to an overall happy life. He does not love himself so how can he possibly be capable of loving someone else? Like a broken record he plays the "I'm not good enough" record over and over in his mind. He has been living in a dark place for a long time and playing that record over and over...and believes it.  He has worked very hard to make himself believe he is not worthy of his own happiness. He has spent years building a wall...a fortress around him that prevents light and love from reaching him.  He has placed himself in a deep, dark pit and sits in solitude. At times he puts on a mask and ventures out only to save face so that he may keep up the façade that he is happy. They do not know the real him and he is ok with it. He gets up, goes to work and on weekends drinks himself into oblivion to numb any feelings he may have...whether they are good or bad.  See, on a Monday he is a self proclaimed "fall down drunk alcoholic" and by the weekend he is saying "it's not that bad." It is a sad, lonely existence indeed and he thinks he deserves it.

 

So many let fear stop them from achieving love, success and personal goals in their lives.  Face your fears head on because you are worth it. Do not spend your life trying to live up to others expectations of who they feel you should be. Stop playing the "I'm not good enough" record and get up, get out and find yourself. Carve your own path out and follow your instincts. Face those fears and maybe you will find that they are not so scary and intimidating after all. Learn to love the wonderful person that you are and let love into your heart. Take control of your life, stop making excuses and face your fears!  

 

   

Living in the present

So many carry the burdens of the past with them. They cling into old memories and a turbulent past. Some live in fear of their uncertain future. What is most important is to live now in the present. 

Yes, the past happened. Yes, the future is uncertain. Accept and say to yourself that what matters is now. I know it is hard not to keep reliving what happened to you. Your feelings are validated, but to find peace you have to practice forgiveness. This does not mean that what happened to you was right, but by forgiving you can free yourself. It seems like we remember the bad times more often than the good times. Like a movie the negative thoughts play over and over in your mind, in your dreams and daydreams. You are putting out negative thinking and negative energy. You will get back what you are sending out into the Universe. Look around and you may see yourself in the negative people you are surrounding yourself with. They too are living in the past, the future, but not the present. Live for today.